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Short caption today, bc what needs to be said is in the slides. We need change in this space. The same old-same old, is not working. And, influencers & companies are getting rich, while so many continue to suffer.
Some examples as to what we can change, & why➡️.
#SameHere🤙 #5in5 #Campaigns #mentalhealthawarenessmonth #mhawareness #mhawarenessmonth #influencerculture #statistics #mentalhealth #movements #changeneeded #changeisneeded #changeisnow
This past wk we had an awesome pregame discussion abt bullying at Citi Field w the Mets, & 4,500 of their closest school friends - students/teachers/parents.
The Mets have been great partners at bringing impt convos to the community. You’ll see a pic of when we first started working w them in their offices➡️ & they wanted to be trained in how to talk abt this topic w care. They walk the walk in terms of the programming being impactful.
For this particular event, since it was sold as a convo abt bullying, a few things to note:
1) We did not call it “Anti-Bullying” or “Say No To Bullying.” In the spirit of not wanting to “other,” we went a diff direction bc those campaigns put us on sides & point fingers at those who we are saying are “wrong.” Instead, our message was abt inclusion & what we can get to know abt each other. Why people project pain on to others thru bullying.
2) We brought our good friend, pro boxer @boydmelson out, to share his insights. When kids see public figures who’ve achieved great heights, talking abt their own experiences, they’re more likely to relate - that this topic applies to ALL of us, #5in5.
3) We went deep & discussed Jarren Duran…his share abt his struggles bc of what fans were saying to him AND the most recent incident in Cleveland where a fan actually bullied him abt his openness abt his suicide attempt.
What blew us away is that - the Mets folks told us that the DBacks players who were warming up in left field by us, stopped when they heard that convo, & came over to listen. They said the players were nodding along as we were talking abt what they face as well - no matter how much $ they make. That gave us goosebumps.
Got to bring my dad, a kidney donor, & intro him to the crowd - you’ll see a pic of us on the field➡️. Finally, 1st inning, 2 security guards came to our seats. We thought to check our tix. Instead held out their hands & said: “Thank you for that convo, it deeply resonated.”
We can stop bullying by coming together, educating, sharing pain…instead of just trying to stop it punitively, alone.
#SameHere🤙 #mets #citifield #jarrenduran #bullying #cyberbullying #bullyingprevention
This story, which came out just a few days ago, abt social media “influencer” Misha Agarwal - both shocked me, & then also sadly didn’t surprise me at all, as I thought more abt it. Obviously an awful tragedy where we support the Agarwal fam, & then one where we’re thankful also to them for gifting us the story, so that it can be learned from.
Some bkgrnd & key takeaways:
Mukta, Misha’s older sister, shared that Misha was fixated on reaching 1 Mill followers on IG & had also set it as her phone’s wallpaper. “She built her world around Instagram & her followers…When her followers started decreasing, she became distraught & felt worthless.”
Muktka continued: “She would often hug me crying, saying, what will I do if my followers decrease? My career will be over.”
However in “real” life, Misha had a law degree & was preparing for judicial examinations!! Mukta pleaded w her sister: “I told her she would become a judge one day & didn’t need to worry about his followers.”
What has society turned into - that a young woman w a law degree, on her way to being a judge at only 24, thinks her life is over bc her social following has decreased/wont hit some made-up goal?!
Real talk: Having higher numbers feels good. Whatever your goal on here. For us, it’s to help more people. BUT we have also seen the way these channels can CHOOSE to CRUSH your reach, w almost nothing to do w your content & everything to do w what they think drives emotion/online sales, to benefit THEM.
Social media numbers are driven by how many your post is SHOWN to, not necessarily how valuable the info is, or how nice your dress is/isnt.
It is a TOOL to communicate, it is NOT the world itself. In our case - if we want to impact folks, truly, it’s why we’re on the road so often, in-person. These numbers say NOTHING abt the worth we bring to the world.
Don’t let these things define you. It’s a nice to have, not a need to have. Your value comes in how you are of service to others, NOT what these dashboards say. We have to instill this in kids (& yes, even many adults). You’re not a number.
#MishaAgarwal #SameHere🤙 #5in5 #suicideprevention #numbersdontmatter #youreworthit #mentalhealth #reallife
Mental health for way too long has been treated like an after thought….like it comes after all the other forms of health that are “more visible & more vital.”
I respect that we have a #mentalhealthawarenessmonth but look at the next slide➡️: we don’t NEED to celebrate a “physical health awareness” month because we all know that we ALL have physical health.
Call us contrarians or cage shakers, but when we stop treating mental health so differently, and start treating it like IT IS HEALTH like anything else we need to take care of, we’ll have truly started to normalize the conversation.
Every day - not just in May, needs to be a mental health focused day. It applies to all of us. Not “1 in 5” as the stats tell us, but #5in5.
#SameHere🤙 #MentalHealth #ALLofus #universal #normalization #wordsmatter
The event at PNC Park last night is a microcosm of one of the issues we have in society surrounding suicide.
First let me say that we have no idea why this happened. The latest reports I’ve read from those in the stands, are that this man was very intoxicated, poured beer on himself in earlier innings, got excited when his team got a hit, & jumped up to celebrate, causing him to propel over the wall.
Happy to see most big media outlets call it a “fall” and not use a more graphic term.
A fall is possible. So too is that it was a 100% mistake. So too is that it was an attempt. We. Dont. Know.
But because it happened in such a high profile spot - a baseball park - (ironic as we are on our way to present at Citi Field to kids at a Mets day game about Bullying) - we have SO many on social media who think this is: funny, a way to get clicks, a way to talk about suicide flippantly, & in the end - something that prevents future help-seeking (even if this has nothing to do w an attempt).
We have the highest suicide numbers ever in the history of our planet. Last full year recorded (2023): over 50k deaths by suicide in the US alone.
We need conversation & education about how harmful the language you see - in these slides, and all over social media - can be, as we try to turn around these awful numbers.
Hope this man is ok. Thinking about him and his family.
#SameHere🤙 #5in5 #pncpark #pirates #fan #piratesfan #fall #mentalhealth #suicideprevention
Maybe you’re a religious person, maybe not. Maybe you believe in a higher power, maybe not. Regardless of your beliefs, it’s hard not to take notice that most everything in this world helps someone or some thing else. Could be religious design…could be evolution…could be a combo. Whatever you believe…
Bees carry pollen. Algae actually live inside coral. In exchange for a home, the algae nourish the coral w nutrients & energy, allowing the coral to grow its skeleton. Countless examples, but you get the pt.
Pope Francis passed just over a wk ago & as is often the case when someone passes, more of his writings are making their way arnd. It wasn’t an avid follower of the Pope, so I hadnt read much of his work, but now that it’s being shared - his words when he was on this earth, I’m taking note. Simple but profound.
I’ve shared a number of them in Stories - but as a MH advocate, it’s hard not to take notice of his words & think abt them thru that lens.
Why does equine therapy work for so many? Why does wilderness therapy work for so many?
When we’re of service to OTHERS - another life: person, animal, even plant, we begin to heal. We get out of our own heads/trying to fix what’s wrong w us, & we use our “fixing brains” to focus on how we can help others. Maybe that’s by design?
It’s neuroprotective - yes it gets us out of our own “tail chasing”…but it also feels so good & gives us a NATURAL dopamine hit outside of phones & work & compliments.
When I left pro sports (my dream career for many yrs) it felt like my purpose & identity. Then, when I even SNIFFED the feeling that came from helping others (not w their careers alone), but improving their lives, that drug became addictive & something I knew helped me heal…I wanted to do it the rest of my life. I (shockingly to me), didn’t want to go back to sports.
If you’re hitting a plateau in your healing journey, potentially your next step lies in stepping out of your own self care work exclusively, & looking at how you can work to help someone or some thing else.
Starting is simple: share your story!
#SameHere🤙 #5in5 #popefrancis #servicetoothers #servicetohumanity #mentalhealth #helpingishealing #starr
Probably one of (if not the) most frustrating aspects of these healing journeys we are on: the crashes (whether major or minor) that continue to happen, even when we feel like we’ve found the tools & put ourselves into a productive & healthy routine.
As the concept of trauma has been normalized, we have come to understand how MAJOR life events we experienced in the past (& then the consistent distressing thoughts related to those events), have tripped us up. We then go on healing journeys to release & rewire those experiences from our bodies/systems: hence the acronym for STARR - Stress & Trauma Active Release & Rewiring exercises.
But even when we are feeling good, & in a flow state, we can crash (minor or major) & it feels like it comes “out of nowhere.” Here’s a helpful analogy: If you have a major sprain of your ankle, you can rehab it back. It can be very strong. But playing on it repeatedly over time, it doesn’t take a major wrong turn of that ankle for you to sprain it again. Little tweaks over time can lead to another injury bc we had the initial major sprain.
Our nervous system is the same way. It doesn’t take a major T trauma all the time, to throw us off now. It can be little things over time, that accumulate - EVEN when you are doing your STARR work.
So what to we do about it? Trust the process. You don’t do the work so that the crashes dont ever happen. You do the work so that when the crashes to happen - 1) they aren’t as intense, 2) they are less frequent, 3) you accept them, & you bounce back more quickly. We can do this!💪
#SameHere🤙 #5in5 #smallttrauma #traumainformed #starrexercises #mentalhealthroutine #slowbuild
This is a tough topic - especially when the last thing we try to do on this page is separate ppl into sides. Same Here, #5in5: we have more in common than we have differences, especially when it comes to emotional pain - something that is universal.
But as I’ve shared my own story of struggles, I’ve had so many others share back w me.
Recently, there has been so much pain I’ve heard about 1) because someone else was in pain & they made up a narrative about the person I’ve been speaking w, & 2) that person who has made up that narrative has used triangulation (often a term they don’t even realize & aren’t consciously aware of in a strategy sort of way), to hurt the other person to get a 3rd party to “side” w them.
People who have been thru hell & done the work, are often very independent. They can stand on their own two feet. They don’t need the praise of others to know in their hearts, that morally what they are doing is right - in most situations.
Sadly, when they have friends or fam members in their life who have not done that work, things like: comparisons, jealousy, rage, anger, manipulation come into play. And those factors lead to the person who hasn’t done the work, creating a narrative about the person who has. This is done to justify to that hurt person why “they are right.” Bc when you’re hurt & haven’t done the work, feeling right is the only thing that feels like a stable platform to stand on. Especially when comparing oneself next to someone who is confident in themselves.
And what’s worse is, bc it’s hard for them to find that consistently stable platform, they will often triangulate someone else into the narrative - a child in a marriage breaking up, a friend in a long standing group relationship, a colleague at work.
If you’ve done the work, as hard as it is to “accept” - here’s the reality: that narrative & that triangulation won’t stop bc you ask for it to, or plead your case. It only stops when the other person does the work, themselves.
Sometimes walking away & wishing everyone well is the best you can do for YOUR mental health.
#SameHere🤙 #triangulation #Manipulation #hurtpeoplehurtpeople #projection
For so long, we were told that mental health complications were genetic in nature, period.
You’re either gonna get depression/anxiety/schizophrenia/bipolar (or one of the other 330+ mental illnesses in the DSM5), bc it’s in your blood line, or you’re not. PTSD was treated as its own separate category that - service people in our military dealt w, exclusively.
It’s amazing as we travel arnd the country, & the world, those misunderstandings above are still very prevalent. So many have been conditioned to believe that mental health complications are something you have, or you don’t, & you’re either in one category or the other.
Our incessant focus here on ripping apart the “1 in 5” suffer w mental illness narrative is bc all that stat does is tear us into two distinct groups: 1) those who have “it” & then 2) those who “don’t.” As an example of this, I’ve seen some orgs say: the numbers are now: “1 in 4,” or “2 in 5.” Notice how those changes in stats do NOTHING to change the binary misunderstanding that you either have “it” or you “don’t.”
Because of this erroneous way we’ve been taught to look at MH, its why, if you look at the first slide, so many have no idea what signs to look out for that their MH is declining.
The examples I gave, we pass those signs off as: “I’ve been working too hard lately…I went out too late the other night & it’s lingering…The kids were up & I didn’t get much sleep.”
All those are contributing factors, but they aren’t identifying the reality that there are SIGNS we can look out for, early, that our physiology & biology are changing, before more serious MH complications arise, regardless of (& yet sometimes bc of) what our underlying genetics are.
Mental health is NOT for a select group, it’s for #5in5, all of us, & we have to normalize prevention.
#SameHere🤙 #MentalHealth #Prevention #getinfront #earlywarning #suicideprevention
If there’s one thing I hope everyone can agree on, it’s that we want to find ways to prevent these awful tragedies. Way too many of them are happening, & we aren’t seeing change fast enough.
I’ve shared this numerous times when there’s been a mass shooting (defined by our country as 2 or more), but the gridlock to change happens because we have “sides” who point fingers as to “THE reason” the tragedy occurred each time one happens.
We have those who say: It’s the guns, it’s the guns alone…get rid of the guns & we get rid of the problems. Then we have those who say: it’s the mental illness…it’s the SSRIs they’re on…just keep the guns away from “those folks” & this won’t keep happening.
Bc of the feet dug in on those ideological sides - NOTHING changes. These leaders, & then by proxy those who put them in office to fight for that specific change, end up getting nothing done, bc it’s like the sides are speaking two completely diff languages. There’s no way to find compromise for change, when you aren’t even playing on the same ball fields.
This is why I’m encouraged to see (for the first time I can remember) MOST of the major outlets talking abt the gunman’s BACKGROUND/life struggles.
The suspect’s birth mother was in custody disputes w his father, that began in 2007!! & lasted thru 2023 (essentially his entire childhood). He was also taken by his mother to Norway in March 2015 in violation of a child custody order. His mom told his father she was taking him to S. Florida & she allegedly fled the country w him in violation of their custody agreement. Eventually they were forced back to the US. His mother was arrested at FLL Airport.
Later in 2015, his mom filed a lawsuit alleging slander & libel on behalf of herself & her son against the father & stepmom.
Do any of these experiences excuse the shooting? No way! Do they possibly explain WHY (all this trauma) someone can develop to this pt of actually hurting/killing others in this way - sadly, yes.
The more we understand what goes on in early childhood that gets someone to this pt - where “harm to others” as they dissociate, is possible, the more we can get in front of/prevent it (cont below⬇️).
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